tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5818397854598010989.post1400284649455058184..comments2024-03-26T20:24:14.950-04:00Comments on Crazy as a Loom: Think I'll just eat dessert.Hilaryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02528439226293446420noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5818397854598010989.post-10306817320595454932013-07-03T06:41:18.188-04:002013-07-03T06:41:18.188-04:00My mother moved in with us after my dad went to a ...My mother moved in with us after my dad went to a nursing home. She stayed for 8 years. I had part time help while I was at work, but most weekends and holidays were all mine. She was wheelchair bound so toileting, washing were always adventures. Pushed my creativity, no doubt. She was very grateful and while I was not always cheerful, I was able to keep her home until her end as she wished.<br /><br />Hang in there. It's not easy, but it's not forever. Find help, rely on family. My sister was not there for us, but so it goes. And if you can't do it, that is OK!Dianehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05677477750292602963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5818397854598010989.post-30852872253033404682013-07-02T10:56:39.149-04:002013-07-02T10:56:39.149-04:00THe strangest thing----I miss all the hullabaloo a...THe strangest thing----I miss all the hullabaloo around caring for my dad. It was like a full time job and it was so worthy. Thinking of you and your journey now.Cupcake Murphyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01290758835270673671noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5818397854598010989.post-9241815237053102702013-07-01T21:54:16.681-04:002013-07-01T21:54:16.681-04:00Glad to read that you aren't overdoing it, Hil...Glad to read that you aren't overdoing it, Hilary. Peace and tranquillity is a must if we are going to survive the storm. I wonder what it is about mothers??? I can not see myself being precious or demanding. I'd just be the quiet lump of lard in the corner. Maybe leave some brochures around for aged care home etc. xo Take care. Lydia La Lahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11175566681652761270noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5818397854598010989.post-70670964903136232702013-07-01T11:22:57.208-04:002013-07-01T11:22:57.208-04:00oh, that recipe looks soooo good. Let us know if i...oh, that recipe looks soooo good. Let us know if it's a keeper.<br /><br /> Wish I had words of wisdom regarding the aging parent issue. My father still lives independantly, but depends on us for most things house related. I think it's just as you said.. you live it, step by step, steady as you go, changing up what needs changing and bending with the wind. <br /><br /> <br /><br />Karen thisoldhouse2.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03302171590212119499noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5818397854598010989.post-80843985958399754592013-07-01T09:37:29.768-04:002013-07-01T09:37:29.768-04:00i am droolingi am droolingDarylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08241795455748298624noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5818397854598010989.post-17630554298417669092013-07-01T07:29:12.262-04:002013-07-01T07:29:12.262-04:00I understand how difficult it can be and your when...I understand how difficult it can be and your when the parent becomes the child. Valerie has fine advice. <br /><br />I love tiramisu.. drool!<br /><br />Hugs to you, my sweet friend.Hilaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12787493532006658679noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5818397854598010989.post-23275121755773996822013-07-01T07:01:21.361-04:002013-07-01T07:01:21.361-04:00I have to say I must have been lucky taking care o...I have to say I must have been lucky taking care of my dad for 9 months...I practically moved in with him and my mom. He was a joy to take care of and appreciated every little thing. My mantra was "It is a honor and a privilege"....ain't for city galshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14938751007704247232noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5818397854598010989.post-52600359649061249022013-07-01T01:37:01.301-04:002013-07-01T01:37:01.301-04:00I feel ya! I am here at my Dad's place caring ...I feel ya! I am here at my Dad's place caring for him, and daily things go ever so slightly more down hill. He DRINKS! He's ninety! I couldn't tell him to do different even if he would listen, at ninety, it's a little late to be changing that habit. <br />I feel like screaming daily when I come home and he refuses to wear his hearing aid and turns the three TV's in the house all the way up, then rolls his eyes at me when he can't hear me.<br />Somewhere in here is a humorous something. I just need to search for that, because I feel it is my only hope!claudiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16572555442321120647noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5818397854598010989.post-65841909310394434462013-06-30T20:07:25.135-04:002013-06-30T20:07:25.135-04:00What Valerie said! Everyone always compares it to ...What Valerie said! Everyone always compares it to taking care of kids, but I had a small taste of what my future holds (mom came up lame at the beginning of the week, and I was taking full care of her for 2 1/2 weeks. Thank goodness she's better now). I'd have my kids be little again in a heart beat! It was a bit easier when I started treating her kind of like a 4 year old (not "what do you want to eat?" but "do you want a peanut butter sandwich or a cheese sandwich?", that kind of thing). It isn't easy, and you have my deepest sympathy.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5818397854598010989.post-66684888736437697532013-06-30T18:33:21.945-04:002013-06-30T18:33:21.945-04:00I remember those days-Mom & Dad both-I knew It...I remember those days-Mom & Dad both-I knew It wouldn't be forever but some days I wanted to scream and pound the wall...but I didn't...I took a deep breath-vented to my sister-told her my frustrations with 'her' parents...today is Dad's Birthday...I miss them both every day - living in a home he built surrounded by memories and hoping I did the best I could for them both...not always feeling like I did, was it enough, did I do all I could/should...for them or for me? Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04510150563834330612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5818397854598010989.post-5901217149950384892013-06-30T18:25:01.788-04:002013-06-30T18:25:01.788-04:00I know there are days when we struggle, taking car...I know there are days when we struggle, taking care of elderly parents is draining even on good days. <br />I admire your stamina, giving care and attentiveness despite your own health problem.<br />Kudos to you my dear bloggy friend.<br />~JoA Brit in Tennesseehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16080644141670903160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5818397854598010989.post-34237026310367436002013-06-30T15:38:52.921-04:002013-06-30T15:38:52.921-04:00I know what you mean about an aging mother.....my ...I know what you mean about an aging mother.....my mother has always been a difficult (that's me being nice saying difficult) person but now it's draining just to be around her and she's needing more watching over now. I'm thankful she lives in a retirement community rather than in my home but I'm running over her place more often these days. I wish I could vent on my blog about it but she reads it...... :-) You have such a great attitude about life, you're an inspiration to me. Cindie https://www.blogger.com/profile/00417973211775970549noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5818397854598010989.post-75389396104592828262013-06-30T15:15:36.395-04:002013-06-30T15:15:36.395-04:00Hilary...three words: Home Health Aid.
You are...Hilary...three words: Home Health Aid. <br /><br />You are still recovering yourself. I'm betting that if you look, you'll be able to find the perfect person to come in and help out with your Mom a few hours a day. <br /><br />One of the hard things about parents who have reached an advanced age, is that their kids aren't so young anymore either. <br /><br />Sending you hugs....Valeriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16226371437929271405noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5818397854598010989.post-90901152329443925562013-06-30T14:25:04.516-04:002013-06-30T14:25:04.516-04:00sorry about your mom and the drain it puts on you....sorry about your mom and the drain it puts on you.TexWisGirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13641962051044162710noreply@blogger.com